(Source: Kevin Gates, Facebook)
I just caught wind of the essay about a director, whose works I enjoy, and his ex-wife and I have thoughts about it.
I don’t think the infidelities is hypocritical of feminism. However, it is abusive and we should call him for what he is: an abuser. This is not a bash against her, because her pain is VALID. As someone who has dealt with the same type of man herself, let me reword this in bullet points to convey a stronger message:
•A man or woman who puts their partner’s (and the people they cheated with) health and mental wellbeing in jeopardy is an abuser.
•A man or woman who gaslights his or her partner (and the people they cheated with) and doesn’t truly allow that partner to walk away and heal is an abuser.
•A man or woman who fights for equality, but is abusive to their partner is not a hypocrite; ACTUALLY, true equality comes from the fact that they are both free to be absolutely shitty human beings. (Terrible, but true.)
•A man or woman who is publicly self-righteous about being faithful, but is committing infidelities out of the public eye is a hypocrite.
•This will affect her with future decisions in picking a partner.
•This will deteriorate her trust in love.
•This will affect any mutual friendships they had.
•This has changed her entire life for better or for worse.
And for that, I pray for her peace and healing.