Or at least it was two years ago. It’s the anniversary of my car accident. I have talked about it quite a bit on this blog, but not in full detail. More like the after effects of what happened. My court case is settled now and I’m free to discuss the events of that night.
My family and I had received a surprise inheritance from my deceased great-grandfather Tom. I was a few months in from being previously homeless and had to share the one vehicle my parents had. My dad thought it would be a good idea for me to have a car again, since my previous vehicle died (it was also a contributing factor to my homelessness, since it constantly needed extremely expensive repairs.)
The new vehicle was purchased that morning. He picked it up and parked it outside of our building. As a celebration, my dad, my mom, and myself took the new car for a spin to get groceries. By this time it was dark, but not late. It was also raining. I was driving (of course), my dad was in the front right passenger seat, my mom in the back left passenger seat. We ended up sitting at a red light on one of the arterial roads in Wilmington, when we got slammed into. We didn’t hear any screeching of brakes or anything. Just the boom of the impact.
My theory is that the man who hit us was texting and driving. He hit us at a speed of which I’m sure was close to 45mph if not faster. We were also sitting at the red light for quite some time and did not move, which is why the impact was so devastating. Like I said there were no screeching of brakes, as if he didn’t pay enough attention to attempt to stop his car. When he jumped out to check on us he had a flip phone in his hand. After my dad and I jumped out of the car, we had to call for an ambulance since my mom took the brunt of the impact. She was also fading in and out of consciousness which was flipping me out and I ordered my dad to keep talking to her to keep her awake. The driver simply asked if we were ok. He tried to diminish (in a passive-aggressive nice way) the damage of the accident and the emergency situation my mom was having. All of this was happening and I paid no attention to the massive pain I was in, because of the adrenaline that was coursing through me to try and help my mom. When the ambulance came, my dad stayed behind to meet with the police to make a report while I rode off in the ambulance with my mom.
According to the report the other driver made to the police: we stopped suddenly in front of him which is why he hit us (a lie.) He also made no mention of hydroplaning which would have been a better lie since it was raining heavily outside. All of this to hide the fact that he was texting since he would have been in bigger trouble with the law. Thankfully the claims adjuster, who totaled my car, knew better when he saw the damages.
I’m not at liberty to speak about my parents injuries, but I can speak about my own. I suffered from severe whiplash and lost 50% range of motion in my neck. To give you perspective, I was only able to turn my head so far until I had to move the rest of my body to compensate. My trunk, including my spine, had issues and vertebrae would occasionally pop out of place. It took about 10 months of treatment in order for me to be a functioning human again. I’m grateful to my chiropractor and medical massage therapist for all that they did.
I still have lingering issues that will never go away even though my team did all they could to treat me. The range of motion in my neck is considerably better. However turning my head to the left is still uncomfortable. When I shot Background over the summer, one of the scenes required me to turn my head to the left at a frequent pace. I was left in severe pain for the next few days after. My muscles atrophied significantly since I was not permitted to workout during my treatment. I feel extremely weak right now.
All is not lost though. I have been doing more fitness wise and I hope to be back in fighting shape very soon. I’m also looking into other therapies to see if I can make an improvement on my neck. The big miracle in all of this is that my parents and I are alive and walking. Cars are replaceable, people are not.