Gown Hunting

(Source: Classical Art Memes Facebook.)

It’s 2018, and that means there are goals to be set. My friend and I made the promise to go to the ball in Harlem this year after missing it last year. I have taken further steps to try to get ahead of the game.

Gown Shopping!!!

(Me circa March 2016.)

The gown featured in the photo above is what I wore to the ball in early 2016. It is pretty. I looked like a mermaid. I paid $10 for it. However, my boobs kept trying to escape the dress all night!

(Me trying to do my best ‘Chappelle’s Show’ Robot Dance Party Guy impression. I nearly fell out of this dress making this video 😂)

This time I’m looking for straps or sleeves since it will still be chilly that time of year. It will also mean having to pay full price too…

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ource: Facebook.)

Ugh. It's ok though, it just means that I really have to elevate my job search into something high paying to afford it. I hope to have pictures soon.

Upcoming Podcast Interview, and a Blast From The Past

(Source: Urban Dictionary.)

Good news! One of the first bookings I have for the new year is a podcast. An acquaintance of mine launched a new website called Bored in DE, which details all of the interesting happenings in Delaware that doesn’t simply include drinking at the local watering hole or going to the new Italian restaurant around the corner (both of which are fairly common in this state.)

He is also highlighting many of the residents who are getting things done or have interesting careers. Prior to Joe Biden becoming our VP, Delaware was just a tiny speck on the map of the U.S. and well…we still are. It’s the reason why my Twitter account’s location is written as “Delawhere?” No one knows or cares where we are.

(Source: Wayne’s World)

Since I have an interesting career, I was invited along with two other actresses to sit down for a podcast interview that will also have a live broadcast on Facebook. A couple of weeks ago a friend of mine, Sara Jones, was just interviewed on the same podcast for her career in fashion: Anara Original, her blog: Blondie Jones, and her book: The Playbook to Essential Style; it was a great interview.

This isn’t the first time I was interviewed for a podcast. Last year during the summer of 2016, I was interviewed by Slate about my financial struggles. The podcast as far as I know hasn’t been released yet, which makes me a bit sad. I was hoping to share the link on this blog, but no such luck. Which brings me to my next topic on this post:

(Source: Jeffree Star’s Facebook Page.)

I wrote this comment two years ago before it was revealed that Jeffree Star made horrible racist comments which eventually led him to be canceled in my opinion. One of his fans liked my comment and I was half-tempted to delete it as I didn’t want to have any associations with him anymore. However I chose not to for a reason, this was my true story, and someone listened and liked it. I do need to make some corrections though because I had abridged an already long comment and I want everything I write to be consistent.

1) The job that I was living Paycheck to paycheck on was my HR job. I had previously posted how much easier it was to structure paying the bills and saving when working a 9-5 job. This was in fact the job I was referring to and I did save money…in the beginning. It was about a month later, was when I was living paycheck to paycheck after loaning my family money to live and my car kept breaking down. My savings was plundered and I wasn’t able to recover for a while. Hell, even now I’m still on shaky ground.

•I did find a job while I was on unemployment, working part-time at a restaurant. It was great timing too, because my unemployment money ran out not long after that. The only issue, I was making the same as I was on unemployment and I soon became homeless because, like I said, financial recovery took a really long time.

•I really didn’t have anything to lose by becoming an actress. I’m moving quickly for the time I started this career. It takes people up to a decade sometimes to get into SAG and I managed to accomplish it in only 2 years. I’m seriously looking forward to what the new year will bring. One of the projects I want to book begins the 2nd week of January. We’ll see what happens.

The Obligatory Blog Posting

(Source: Pinterest. GO MEGHAN!!)

Hey guys! I hope your holiday was well. Mine was good. I ate well, worked over the weekend, caught a little stomach bug, had an existential crisis, found out that there will be another princess….

WAIT, WHAT?!

As you very well know, if you’ve been following this blog, I do try as hard as possible to avoid celebrity news. However this was unavoidable and I’m ok with it; I’ll tell you why:

(Source: Pinterest, photo by Howell Corant 1955.)

This was MY princess for most of my life. No, I’m not from Monaco. I’m from the United States of America. I was born in Washington D.C. but my parents didn’t stay too long after my birth. We moved to my mom’s birthplace where my great-grandmother (whom I lovingly called Nana) lived: Wilmington, DE. This is where I stayed for the better part of my life and the closest major city to me, Philadelphia, is only a short drive away. The significance of this, is that Princess Grace was born and raised in Philadelphia. Clearly it’s a big thing here, but most importantly for me, it’s the fact that someone from my area became a princess. (Though I know being born into a wealthy family, and an Oscar winning actress probably helped.)

I now have a new princess (I know that wouldn’t be her official title, but bear with me I’m from a republic) and this one makes me happy for so many reasons. 1) Like myself, she is interracial. Just like I got excited for seeing and voting someone like myself to be president; I’m so happy to see royalty like myself too. 2) This is not any sort of a forced or rushed relationship. You can see that they are clearly in love. 3) Their relationship wouldn’t have worked 10, 20, 30 years ago because of her prior marriage, country of origin, and even race! The general public is scandalized now, but they would have called for her head a decade ago. I’m so happy of the progression of the general public, and their acknowledgement that love is love. 4) Let’s talk about the interview that they filmed today and the points that stood out to me, that I had wished for in my own relationship:

• One of the things that Princess Meghan (yes, it’s Princess Meghan now dammit!) said that I love and should be the standard across the board: when talking about how she was set up on a date with Prince Harry, her question was “But is he nice? Because if he isn’t, this won’t work.” Obviously this should be applied to everyone you meet in general, but I have noticed (and committed this crime in the past) of people getting caught up in the status of another person whether they are famous or not. It’s the problem I had with the guy who broke my heart, I got too wrapped up in how he appeared to the outside world to really pay attention to who he was as a person. I’m never doing that again.

•They constantly acknowledged themselves as a team. She knows what she is getting into as far as being married into the royal family. More so than that, they said this is going to be a process they are going to have to work together on and take it one day at a time. It’s not just the fame or the royal status, but their marriage, and possibly a family too. Teamwork and choosing each other every day is what will keep them together happily.

•They did quiet dates out of the public eye and spent more time at home. God bless them. Not saying that going out isn’t fun every once in a while, but it can be exhausting even for non-famous people like myself. It’s awkward to get to know someone and have deep conversations when you have people sitting at a table next to you possibly being nosy. They said that quiet time was a blessing as they really got to know each other. Plus I’m sure the food was better, you can drink as much as you want without driving home, and they probably saved a lot of money. (Not saying they have to worry about that.)

•As I said before, they genuinely loved each other and you could see it. No one was in a rush to get married even though it happened quickly. Since they took more time to get to know each other, their love occurred more organically. Also, Prince Harry knew she was the one the moment he first met her. When it’s right you just know.

Since I have no one, not even a crush, I’m going to live vicariously through Princess Meghan. Especially since they made goals for themselves that I wanted for myself if I ever got married. I wish them the best and I will be live-streaming this wedding.

The Prettiest Potato 🥔

(Circa last night at my new job.)

The poles at the new studio I work at are 13 feet tall. Climbing to such heights used to be easy for me, now I’m only able to climb half the way. I also took this photo and videoed myself getting back into a good practice, when I noticed that I’m pretty much a potato version of myself. Not to be mean, but I miss my old body. I have been this weight before, but with significantly more strength and muscle tone. At least I’m dancing in heels again!

(Source: Just Girl Things IG and MemeCenter.com)

Anyway, here are the two videos I promised from last weeks class and last night in all of my potato glory. Enjoy.

(Last week)

(Last night)

Work Stories From Hell!! 👿🔥

(This actually happened.)

There are 3 blogs that I follow religiously. The first is Gala Darling’s blog about Radical Self Love. Next is On Stage Blog which is industry related and I retweet their articles regularly. Lastly is Ask A Manager; which is more related to my previous industry than this one. However, when it comes to work place conduct and etiquette, it’s one that I enjoy reading.

Recently on AAM, Alison asked her readers to share their input about red flags from potential employers. While I really didn’t clarify the red flags too deeply in my post, this is the story I shared:

(Source: Ask A Manager. This link will go directly to Alison’s article about how to identify a bad boss before taking the job.)

Ultimately, what is being revealed to me about my current industry, is that the shenanigans associated with working with people is not new. Like I said in a previous post: the entertainment industry is kind of the Wild West when it comes to workplace conduct. In reality, WORK of any kind is basically the Wild West.

(Source: Pinterest.)

So let me share with you some of the weirdest and the rudest stories I have had to deal with in my adult working life.

1) One of my first jobs was at Victoria’s Secret and I witnessed a male customer sniffing the panties.

2) While working at Bare Minerals, a customer’s husband dipped his fingers in one of the loose eyeshadows and snorted it. He had glitter all over his nose.

3) Pretty much any cosmetics store I have worked at, there were customers that would try on mascara using the original wand it came with instead of a disposable wand we offer. We have to throw those testers out immediately after.

4) The first day of my HR job, computer started burning and smoking the moment I turned it on. My boss helped me quickly unplug it.

5) One day at the HR office, a job candidate decided to pee all over the walls of our public bathroom.

6) At the same office, I would have people curse at me regularly because their I9 work documents were expired. We couldn’t offer them the job until they updated it. (Like seriously, you drive around with an expired driver’s license or fly with an expired passport?)

7) Last year, someone pooped on the floor in one of the bathrooms at Starbucks. My shift manager took the initiative to clean it and spared the rest of us.

8) On a recent background gig I did, the entire shoot was disorganized and the crew members were really rude. One of the PAs announced, sarcastically, the SAG rep was on-site if we wanted to bitch about the way we are being treated. Several people did just that.

9) Right now, I’m temporarily working box office at a theatre on Penn’s Landing. Last night’s shift was a proverbial Murphy’s Law. Massive tech problems from the internet being down; to the copier being down, so I had to write the list of patrons down by hand. The cloud ticketing system ran slow. The ticket printer wasn’t working, and I had a line of antsy customers. Somehow (by the grace of God really) I got everyone into the show on time. I had a shot of tequila once I got home to calm my nerves.

I have more I could share, but some of them were so ridiculous, I’m trying to push them out of my mind.

Going Keto

(Source: Facebook.)

The company I’m enrolled as a distributor with, just launched a whole Ketogenic friendly coffee drink.

Friends unrelated to this company, and have no interest in this company; started talking about going Keto.

Two days ago, a K-Beauty blog I follow, talked about the benefits of going Keto for beautiful skin.

As one of my theatre friends once said: “When the Clue x 4 hits you over the head, you must listen.”

So now I have decided to go Keto.

(Source: Tom Davies and Witchcraft Down & Dirty Facebook page. This is the way I will be drinking tea from now on.)

I’m an Ovo-Lacto Vegetarian. Unlike my vegan counterparts, I will eat animal products, just not the animal itself. Surely a vegan will flame me for eating dairy, however the big issue with my health (mentally and physically) is the over abundance of carbs and sugar (and not the caffeine and dairy as I originally thought.) Diabetes is also hereditary in my family, which means I have to keep my eye on it at all times.

There is also a lovely selection of the fruits and veggies I already eat that are included in the Keto diet (thank goodness.) The downside is having to let go of some of the things I love like bread (unless it’s low carb), pasta (I eat zoodles now), candy, alcohol (not really missing much here), sodas/fruit juices, potatoes, and other super starchy/high sugar fruits and veggies. Cheese, on the other hand, stays in the game.

(Source: Facebook. Dairy should still be consumed in moderation, but I will never let it go. I also have no intentions of getting married which should alleviate this problem.)

My first day on the diet was yesterday and I also included a cup of coffee with heavy cream and no sugar. I didn’t have a panic attack, and I had energy all day. As soon as I get my food right, my fitness will be next. I’m healing my body one step at a time.

Gucci SS18…My Complaints

(Source: Pinterest)

I’m back. After several days of rest and recuperation to try and get my anxiety under control, one of the things I did as a functioning human was watch the Gucci SS18 show live from Facebook.

I consider runway shows to be as much a theatrical event as I do live theatre. As a brand you want to put on a good show for your audience, but I had some issues with this show in particular.

The Lighting:

Pre-show they had normal “work” lights on for the attendees to take their seats. With the drone cameras flying above, you could see this beautiful set inspired by Ancient Rome and Egypt as well as a massive, winding runway. Along with that set you could see that the guest list for this show was incredibly large as there were many butts in seats. Once the show started, the workers went off, the room went dark, the strobes began, and continued throughout the entire show.

Aside from the main area where all of the photographers and videographers were stationed to capture the clothes, there was no light. This is a disservice to the remainder of the audience (who are also members of the fashion industry in their own right) because they are not privileged enough to sit in the designated area to see the collection.

Also I noticed during the final tracing of the runway the lights literally went off in some sections. It was so dark, that it took a few moments for the audience to understand that they were doing a final trace and didn’t clap initially. Plus a dark runway is incredibly dangerous for the models. The set and lighting designers should have given them the courtesy of spiking the runway with glow tape, so they don’t crash into the audience.

The strobe lighting gave me a headache and I was watching on video. I could only imagine what the live audience suffered through.

The Pacing of the Show:

I’m not at all bashing the collection or the models. The collection was beautiful, from what I could see, but that is also a major problem I had with the show. The models were practically racing down the runway! Since I have experience walking in runway shows, I’m sure they were given the direction to continue walking at a fast pace and don’t stop for the cameras. Yes, they practically had an army working this show. Still, if they couldn’t stop to pose, at least let them walk at a slower pace for the small portion of the audience that had good lighting.

I’m going to have to look at the photos later to really look at the clothes. The production value of this show was piss poor with the set, the collection, and the lighting wasted.

New York So Far

(My tourist photo lol!)

I arrived back in New York this past Friday to attend a stunt training and to work a volunteer gig for NYFW. So far, so good.

(Taken yesterday. They were doing Stair Falls. Since it’s my first class they didn’t have me do this yet.)

The stunt training went particularly well. Much of the essential skills that they teach are very similar to what I was learning in Unarmed Stage Combat, but with tweaks that read for film. I plan on taking more trainings until I’m good and ready to do this professionally.

(Taken earlier today.)

Since it was so nice today and I had free time, I took the subway down to Coney Island to walk around. I haven’t been to Coney in 8 years and I just wanted to buzz around to see if anything has changed. Not much though it does seem like they are building more apartments in the area. It’s still Coney and I love it.

(Taken yesterday before taking the train to stunt class.)

Tomorrow I meet up with a friend and former co-worker I haven’t seen in person in a long time. (Although we correspond regularly on social media.) She is getting married next month, and since I am unable to attend her wedding; I wanted to give her part of her wedding gift when I see her:

(A Signed Tom Hiddleston postcard that was gifted to me from Wizard World Philadelphia last year.)

This was given to me by the friend of the young lady that I calmed down from a panic attack before meeting him at the convention last year. My friend is a major fan of his (me, not so much…at least not anymore) so I felt that this postcard would be in better hands with her. I can’t wait to see her as we have much catching up to do.

I will update more later once I go to the Jason Wu Grey Out event and after the Chulo Underwear NYFW event I’m working.

Breaking Point

(Source: Pinterest, Creator Unknown)

Aw man, I’m seriously gaining weight fast! It’s been so tough though. All of the stress and chaos I’m experiencing has been causing me to eat my feelings. I’m going on an emergency diet and cleanse starting tomorrow. I hope to reset myself before these upcoming shoots.

The Background Actress’s Guide to Costuming


(Circa: Late July 2017 on set of a film, dress $16 from Clothes Mentor West Chester.)

Originally I had pitched this idea to Racked.com as a contributing writer. However they declined because they had articles of a similar nature. I was going to pass on writing this for my own blog. However, the store that I purchased the above cocktail dress from is hiring, so now this essay has become relevant.

Where to start? The beauty about working a background scene is that they give you a list of examples of how you need to dress for the scene. Like:

Gucci
Zara
Tory Burch
Prada
Etc.

They will also give you visual examples of cuts and fabric, plus what tones they need you to wear. Much of this depends on the scene you are shooting too. If you are playing a lawyer, obviously you would be expected to wear a suit of some kind. Playing a hipster would require a different wardrobe and so on and so forth. If they give you specific brand names as the type of look they are going for, it would behoove you to do some research. The best place for this is Instagram, with the next being Pinterest. Look at how your favorite celebrities dress and that will help you.

The roles I typically get picked for require me to be a wealthy, socialite type. Think Hillary from The Fresh Prince of Bel Air:


(Source: IMDB.com)

When you’re in my position of very little money and expected to look rich; what do you do?

This is where my friend the consignment store comes to play! The gold dress I’m wearing above is from a higher end retail chain. It’s original price is closer to, if not above, $100. Yet I only paid $16 for the dress and an additional $20 for all of the jewelry. (The purse I received as a gift and the shoes were on loan from the wardrobe department, since my original pair were considered to be too shiny.)

The next thing you need to do is to bring options. Yes, I bought and used this dress specifically for this shoot. However, if the director’s vision for this scene has changed in any way, it is as simple as changing into a different outfit.

A warning though: if you only brought one option this will force the wardrobe department to loan out an outfit and take your pay voucher (and maybe your driver’s license too) for safe keeping until it’s returned. This also means that you have to be extremely careful with the clothes (which you should anyway whether it’s yours or theirs) and make sure you don’t cause damage of any kind. (Or that could affect your pay or chances of being hired for other shoots in the future. One of the shoots I did, an actor walked out with a suit that was loaned to them. Needless to say that person didn’t get paid and is more than likely not working for that agency ever again.)

A few other things I keep on me for the shoot as well:

A jacket or hoodie (for when it gets cold.)

A luggage lock (so no one tries to break into your bag.)

Lotion that absorbs well. (So it doesn’t damage the clothes.)

A stain removal pen.

Deodorant that dries clear.

A robe or some kind of covering you can wear while eating or applying makeup.

A couple of other things I would add would be:

1) never bring real jewelry to a set. There was an unfortunate instance of an actress that brought real gold bracelets to the set and lost them, only to never find them again. Even if you get camera time, no one is going to know the difference; so keep it fake at all costs.

2) don’t wear anything with a very distinct pattern or logo. Production crews do a magic trick what’s called “cheating the shot.” Meaning to make a scene look like it has more people than there really are hired on set. They do this in many different ways, by adding an accessory, or changing your hair or putting you in deep background. This means more camera time for you, so help them out!

I hoped you liked this essay as much as I liked writing it. I also hope I get the job at this particular consignment store since I do get a lot of my clothes from there. Fingers Crossed 🤞